Kids and problem behaviors -- Parenting principle #1: be a safe harbor -- Putting principle #1 to work -- Parenting principle #2: be a good boss -- Putting principle #2 to work -- Parenting principle #3: prepare them for the real world -- Putting principle #3 to work -- Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (AD/HD): lessening the symptoms by using the three principles -- Applying the three principles to special circumstances -- Healing your self.