Introduction: we are family -- Speaking right -- Queer is as queer does -- Defiling beds, hearts, and minds -- Who're you talking to -- Hate the sin -- Being intolerant -- Until the end of the world -- Rapture ready -- Know your audience -- Narratives -- Use your inside voice -- The nightmare of homosexuality -- Gay blades -- Laying hands on chick -- Behold the man (and his time) -- Chick lit -- The devil and homosexuals -- Sin of sins? -- Marketing hate -- Politics and witness -- Pure rapture -- Framing chick -- Standing in the gap -- Origin stories -- Becoming queer -- Saving homosexuals . . . and America -- Being of two minds -- Choice point -- The narrative of development -- What went wrong? -- From development to compassion -- The political work of compassion -- Our parents and friends -- Safety first -- Feeling sorry for themselves -- Getting what "we" deserve -- Pick an enemy -- And now we are terrorists -- Setting the straight story -- The politics of dessert -- Where's the harm? -- Bringing us all together -- Afterword: another gay agenda -- Listen up! -- Out in the public -- Another gay agenda -- Abbreviation.